People are wounded; it’s a fact of our fallen lives. These wounds affect most everything in our lives—from our choice of work to how we communicate, much of it involves either healing or avoiding what hurts us. One of things that it most affects is our relationships, especially how vulnerable we feel we can be. Most of us, after being hurt by someone we love, grow up guarded and thinking we cannot trust certain groups of people. Sometimes we feel as though we cannot trust anyone. We feel we are all alone. Other times we grow up believing that no one wants to hear what we think, or that to express our feelings is week, arrogant, or inconveniencing to others. Often we just think that Jesus is the only one who we should ever take our wounds to. Indeed, he is the Divine healer. He alone will understand fully.
Humans are relational creatures, we exemplify the Trinity in that we are made to give AND receive love. How can you expect others to love you if you don’t 1) love them and 2) ALLOW them to love you? Some people feel loved when you trust them with your problems. Some people ASK you if they can help you, making it clear that it would be no burden, but an exercise of love, to just listen to your hardships. And yet, you deny them the chance to love you.